Are they really your friends?
Let's start with the definition of friend. The dictionary says that a friend is someone that is attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. A person who gives assistance; a supporter. A person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile.
Now think about the people in your circle that you call your friends. Is your closest friend someone you can talk to without them judging you? Can you tell them about your deepest thoughts and feelings without it coming back on you later? Can your friend keep a secret?
Is your friend someone you can depend on? Does your friend give constructive criticism.
A friend is someone that has your best interest at heart. Someone that would never hurt you on purpose. A friend is someone that has no problem with admitting their faults and will apologize when wrong. A friend prefers to discuss the issues they have with you to you and not someone else. A friend will sacrifice some things for you such as a combo for more items on Wendy's ninety-nine cents menu so both of you are able to eat. A friend should only question your need for help so that they are able to help you in the best way possible. Also keep in mind that a jealous person can never be a good friend to anybody because there will always be a conflict of interest.
Notice that the definition of friend did not mention time in any way. So you can stop saying someone is your friend or best friend because of the amount of time you've known each other . That doesn't count! (Literally)
Have you realized who your real friends are? How? Send me an email
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2 comments:
Many people view advice and constructive criticism as being judgemental. Is there a line between these two or three, and if so how do you know when and/or if you have crossed it? Also, what do you say to those "friends" who say that you are being judgemental when you are not and you are just trying to offer them advice to help them out?
If you truly know your friend then you know how to approach them. When you have to give your opinion or advice on a situation be mindful of your tone and choice of words. Besides a great friend will see it for what its worth and keep it moving knowing no harm was intended
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