A friend and I were talking about falling in love and were wondering if its possible to do it carefully. My answer was no. Anyone that has ever been in love and has had their heart broken knows that love just like life has no guarantees. When you fall in love with someone it is in hopes of something great and long term.
Things happen and people change. Although its not possible, but what if relationships came along with expiration dates and/or contracts and breach of the contract could result in legal action. I agree that this does sound crazy, however take into consideration the heartache and pain that we endure behind a selfish act from someone we decided to love and give the one thing we can never get back (time). Even though time and emotions are priceless, it would be nice to be compensated for sanity's sake. After a break up comes a complete makeover. Besides this may make the other person rethink some things if they have a lot more to lose.
While there really is no safe way to fall in love, we could probably agree that we should never ignore obvious signs of drama to come. We also have to use our head more than our hearts.
Its okay to see a person for who they really are and except them as is. This doesn't mean that you have to have a relationship with this person. Once you figure things out go from there but do not ever waste time thinking you can change someone into what you want them to be.
True love and happiness are two of the many things we all live for. Don't let your past relationships determine your future and hinder your ability to love like never before. Live, love, learn and move on.
Have you been able to fall in love cautiously? Has it worked? I would love to hear about it.
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2 comments:
Interesting thoughts on love. So, are you saying that for those people that do plan to fall in love, or fall in love cautiously, that it backfires and the relationship ends do to this?
Not at all. My opinion and experience says that if the person you are interested in doesn't respect the fact that you want to take your time with starting a relationship then that's not the one for you. However at the same time you can meet someone, fall deeply in love and maintain that relationship for over a year or more and still get hurt. Being cautious in the beginning doesn't determine the life of the relationship. Things happen along the way.
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