WANTED: REAL MEN

These are the five best ways to tell



Ladies listen up! We all know that good men are hard to find. Some of you may be married, some single. Either way you know the difference between a good man and whatever else is out there. You name it, that's what I'll call it! My research department has informed me that the pickins is slim! This means we have to put a search team together, strap on the leather boots, and get rid of the baggage to find what we want. We also have to except minor short comings, reorganize our priorities (a need and necessity list). I have listed the things we are looking for. If all doesn't apply, he isn't the one.



1) Has learned from past mistakes.

This is important because it shows that even though he's made bad decisions in the past, he hasn't repeated them. A rough past should be the foundation for a mentally stable future. Besides experience is the best teacher.



2) The relationship he has with his kids.

A man that doesn't take care of his kids, surely will not care for you. NO EXCEPTIONS! Your kids are the next best thing to you, so if he doesn't care about his kids DO NOT expect him to care anything for you either.



3) Type of people he associates with.

I'm afraid there is some truth to the saying, birds of a feather flock together. Look at his closest friends. They have some things in common. You need to know what it is. You also want to hear what others have to say about him. Keep in mind you can't change anybody. This is why you keep it moving. NEXT



4)What is his outlook on life?

What are his plans in life? Does he have goals? What motivates him? Is he registered to vote? What does he think of the presidential election? Both of you actually need to have answers to these questions. A person without a destination is lost.



5) Keeps a job and pays bills.

A real man knows that things have to be done and actually does them. A man will sacrifice for family and provide the best way possible. He will do what's best for family and not himself. Paying bills shows that he is responsible. Believe me when I tell you, many males will not pay bills.



Ladies, remember in order to get what you want and need you have to be willing to meet him half way. A relationship is give and take and this goes both ways. Don't mess things up for yourself being selfish and stupid. On the other hand if you have someone in your life that's draining you, then do what you have to do. The sooner the better!

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