Some don't think this should be a question at all because this important information should be given without asking. I do agree with that way of thinking, however, we are living in a new day and age where honesty doesn't exist like it used to. In fact, I think we should assume that this information will not be given up front and ask as if we are asking that person's name.
Since we will never understand why relevant information is withheld I've come up with a list of
questions we should ask him or her once interest has been established. While these questions will not guarantee the truth, I think body language will play a part in determining if they're telling the truth. These questions will also give you a better idea of the type of person you are
thinking about letting into your personal space. Negative energy and bad vibes are real!
1) Are you currently in a relationship?
Remember what you've been told all your life. No question is a dumb question! Pay attention to extra blinks, shaking legs, hand movement and stuttering. Key signs of a liar unless they have Turret Syndrome.
2) How long ago did it end?
This will give you some idea if this person is even worth more conversation. If the previous relationship just ended you could be the fall guy or girl. Which means you could be something to do until they work things out.
3) Ever been married?
If this isn't covered in the last question and you have to dig for information, that person is definitely hiding something. Ask how long the marriage was including how long they dated and of course why it ended. Listen carefully to see if they blame the other person. I do understand we may have been in a relationship with that type of person but how they chose to end it says a lot.
3) Any kids? Ages?
Beware of baby mama drama or baby daddy drama! Who has money to throw away on security or replacing windows and tires! And if new kids surface out of the blue after a month, dismiss them.
4) Who is the most important person in your life?
Its important to know about close friendships and family relationships. Once you meet them you will have the inside scoop. Ladies, its true how he treats his mama and the women in his life will determine how he will treat you!
5) What are your goals?
This is also important because it tells you where this person going and may give you some idea of where they've been. This is a question that doesn't require thought. No goals mean no potential!
Hopefully I have helped someone and given others something to think about when meeting that someone "special".
These are my opinions. Please feel free to share yours.
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