After The Lust Is Gone

Now that the steam in the bedroom has cleared, Is it really love?

Relationships tend to have the same story book beginnings....... Once upon a time you met this guy and he was everything you ever wanted. You seem to think that this one completes because of all the things you both enjoy, such as long walks in the park, you both like hot wings from the same place, the same reality shows, this one even watched and said he enjoyed your favorite chic flick, which confirmed it all for you. On top of all that he compliments you almost everyday, kisses you often, and does just about whatever you like.

Lets skip to the middle of the story. Its been a year and you guys have been around each other non stop since the day you met. Things are good but not as good as they were in the beginning. He's not complimenting you as much, the walks in the park have officially ended and hot wings from that "special place" are not a big deal anymore. Now what?

Now that the thrill is gone, do you know why you are still together? In the words of Tina,
" What's Love Got To Do With It?" While love is the foundation, there are many elements that hold that love together such as the consideration, communication, money, support and respect. There have probably been days when you wish you could click your heels and disappear, which is okay! Thing is, if you could disappear, would you return? How long would you stay gone and what would you do is probably the best way to answer the question as to whether or not your relationship is surviving off love or lust.

Its understood that all relationships will have their issues. What determines if it sinks or swim is how those issues are dealt with. Sometimes you will have to agree to disagree and move on. For more serious issues you will have to compromise with each other. When you are dealing with serious issues it may be a good idea to remember why you were so attracted to each other. Hopefully this will make it easier and quicker to resolve your issue(s).

If its love or lust, time will tell you sooner than later. Once you figure it out do what you gotta do. We only have one life to live. Live it to its fullest potential and make a way out of no way. That's what women do.

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