Wednesday, February 6, 2013
"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work". Thomas Edison
This is really amazing to me because the last time I blogged was back in 2009. It's safe to say that I was in some type of transitioning period and probably didn't think I would take a four year break from blogging.
Things have a way of coming back into your life. Have you ever taken a step back and noticed any patterns about yourself? Did your taste buds change a bit? Your taste in clothes may have matured with age but the way you think or make decisions maybe didn't change at all. That may or may not be a good thing but it could be true.
Over the years my life has gone through so many changes. Life has taught me so much. The things I have experienced have been priceless. I wouldn't change a thing, I have no regrets. There's a quote I came across late last night or early this morning by Thomas Edison "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work". I felt like this quote is the story of my life. It's brilliant and true in so many ways. This is life! Try something, if it doesn't work, go to plan B. It's really that simple.
For many years I've had an interest in reading and writing about relationships. I have had my share of good and bad relationships. With me knowing what I know now, I find it hard to believe that I am not suppose to share my stories and help other women who may be going through some of the same things. I think about the many times that the most divine presence stepped in and warned me but my ego didn't listen. We have the gift of intuition and it is an amazing gift to have. It's within all of us, all we have to do is listen to it....that it!
So here I am now, a life coach that likes to assist women with solving their relationships issues. I like helping women realize the mistakes they've been making, assisting them in seeing how they can overcome them and move forward toward an honest and deserving relationship with that special person that will honor and respect them. We also put things into perspective and if it's time to walk away from a current relationship, then pack your bags and go but do so without becoming a bag lady. It's time to release the negative thinking and feelings tied to the past. Now that you know 10,000 ways that won't work, you should be confident in what you do know.
It's a new year! Let's start living our best life NOW!!!!!
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
What Do You Stand For?
So many things cross my mind everyday and I sometimes wonder what it is that I stand for. This may sound like a crazy question but before you Scooby Doo me, ask yourself the same thing. Things are constantly happening around us, I recently heard that Atlanta ranks second in the nation with its crime rate. How many of us are turning the other cheek because we think it doesn't affect us. The fugitive lists are long, are these people really that hard to find or is everybody is too busy to look twice at the people around them. Oh, maybe you stand for not being labeled a "snitch". As Fred Sanford would say "you big dummy"! Keep falling for it if you want too.
The question again is, what do you stand for? The videos that are played on t.v. that give young girls, teenagers and even grown women the wrong idea of what a real woman is, what she should look like, and subconsciously limits the things women can become. Do we stand for only entertainers, and booty shakers? Are our men (especially black men) afraid to be themselves because we think the only thing a man can become is a ball player, rapper, or just a hood figure? What have we become as a people?
Because I am blessed to have a job, does that entitle my employer to do, and say what he/she wants because they feel that I can't do any better because of this recession thing? What do you stand for when it comes to respect? How do you stand up for yourself, the people around you, your community?
People that stand for something don't fall for anything, they don't go for anything. When you take a stand you may find that things and people aren't always what they seem. When you stand for something the world looks different. You see more opportunities, you put yourself in the position for great things to happen. Back in the day, civil rights leaders and ordinary people stood for something. The village raised the kids. The kids are now our parents and/or grandparents. They are the reason we have choices today. If you think about it, we really don't have a choice but to do better for the next generation.
I challenge everyone today to stand for something. Even if its pressing the issue of getting better customer service at the grocery store. Let someone know they could be better at what they do and you deserve to be treated better in the process. Give people the respect they deserve and teach them how to respect you in return. Some simply don't know.
Remember stand for something or fall for anything.
I welcome comments @ freshholmes@yahoo.com
The question again is, what do you stand for? The videos that are played on t.v. that give young girls, teenagers and even grown women the wrong idea of what a real woman is, what she should look like, and subconsciously limits the things women can become. Do we stand for only entertainers, and booty shakers? Are our men (especially black men) afraid to be themselves because we think the only thing a man can become is a ball player, rapper, or just a hood figure? What have we become as a people?
Because I am blessed to have a job, does that entitle my employer to do, and say what he/she wants because they feel that I can't do any better because of this recession thing? What do you stand for when it comes to respect? How do you stand up for yourself, the people around you, your community?
People that stand for something don't fall for anything, they don't go for anything. When you take a stand you may find that things and people aren't always what they seem. When you stand for something the world looks different. You see more opportunities, you put yourself in the position for great things to happen. Back in the day, civil rights leaders and ordinary people stood for something. The village raised the kids. The kids are now our parents and/or grandparents. They are the reason we have choices today. If you think about it, we really don't have a choice but to do better for the next generation.
I challenge everyone today to stand for something. Even if its pressing the issue of getting better customer service at the grocery store. Let someone know they could be better at what they do and you deserve to be treated better in the process. Give people the respect they deserve and teach them how to respect you in return. Some simply don't know.
Remember stand for something or fall for anything.
I welcome comments @ freshholmes@yahoo.com
Sunday, May 17, 2009
About Mothers Day
We celebrated Mothers Day Sunday, May 10. I am sure that women who not only have kids in their lives but men as well are deserving of more than just one day. Women contribute so much to this world for many people on a daily basis. Mothers are nurturing by nature, which means we care even when we shouldn't. If it were up to me, we would celebrate Mothers Day once a week! Every Friday mothers would have the day off and flowers delivered to them along with a spa gift certificate and have breakfast, lunch, and dinner catered to them.
We appreciate the creative things our kids come up with and beautiful bouquet of different color roses we often receive on this day however Mothers day flowers are most often remembered when they are given on regular days just to say thank you for all that we do everyday. Mothers are on the clock 24/7. We don't have any days off, no personal days, and sick days are definitely not allowed! So for us to limit ourselves to just one day(officially) to show mothers they are appreciated is kinda crazy.
Here is something to think about, most of the time when you make a woman happy (especially a mother)your day or even your life will be just a little better. It is a wise idea to pick up the phone every now and then or even check out 1800flowers to see how much nicer you can make someones day. Everybody likes to be appreciated outside of the obvious days because it's not expected. We also love surprises so when you order flowers, switch it up a bit, buy something other than roses.
We appreciate the creative things our kids come up with and beautiful bouquet of different color roses we often receive on this day however Mothers day flowers are most often remembered when they are given on regular days just to say thank you for all that we do everyday. Mothers are on the clock 24/7. We don't have any days off, no personal days, and sick days are definitely not allowed! So for us to limit ourselves to just one day(officially) to show mothers they are appreciated is kinda crazy.
Here is something to think about, most of the time when you make a woman happy (especially a mother)your day or even your life will be just a little better. It is a wise idea to pick up the phone every now and then or even check out 1800flowers to see how much nicer you can make someones day. Everybody likes to be appreciated outside of the obvious days because it's not expected. We also love surprises so when you order flowers, switch it up a bit, buy something other than roses.
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
What's It To You?
Just be happy for me!
It is truly amazing to me how people think. We as a society have gotten so comfortable with everything that is considered "normal". Our way of thinking is so traditional, that anything else is viewed as stupid, weird, crazy, or any other demeaning word used, simply describes the person that thinks it as being simple minded.
I am annoyed (not upset) at some of the responses only because I thought that when you tell someone something good, they would just be happy for you. Never thought that the details of my happiness should or would determine how happy they would be for me. It has lead me to wonder, either some don't believe in what I do or some think that if I'm not getting paid for it then I'm not that good at what I do, but if I am getting paid for it they are surprised. Just think, if you won the lottery, wouldn't you think that people would be happy for you simply because you won? The amount shouldn't determine how happy others would be for you.
I want to explain some things. I understand that to many people writing is something that is never thought about. Writing is one of those things that you know people do, because everything single thing you read, somebody wrote it. From the ingredients on food boxes to magazine articles. I guess nobody stopped to think that the person behind writing everything you read may have gotten paid for it or maybe they didn't but, its what they wanted to do so with that being said, what's it to you?
I am fascinated by the way people process information. I want to give some of you something to think about. My goal is to be self-employed. I have had to clean an apartment for free in order to get a contract with a company. Once I got the contract, I understood that the way I continued to do business, as far as my work ethic and attitude, would determine how long my contract lasted and the potential I would have with others in the business, because word of mouth is a form of marketing. The type of marketing you do depends on your business, however, every business requires clientele. People will talk about you if your work or product is good or bad. The good word of mouth is the type of free marketing that has big returns. Sometimes giving something free along with a pleasing personality, and positive thinking goes a very long way. People will do business with those they believe in and can trust. It's also obvious when people do things just for the money. There is nothing wrong with getting paid for what you do, but when you actually like and take pride in what you do it makes a huge difference and it shows.
There is a saying,"Do what you love and never work another day in your life". Maybe I am one of those rare people who believe that if your heart is in what you do, getting paid for it is a bonus. Its like the ultimate compliment. Imagine, for a minute, about how great your life would be if you did what you loved and were compensated well for it, especially if it's something you would do for free.
My sixth grade math teacher used to tell us everyday at the end of class "remember, if you can't say anything good, don't say nothing. For those of you who are thinking that I should just keep it to myself, maybe you are right, or maybe it wouldn't kill you to just be happy for someone else for once. You see, I know it's impossible to please a crowd. I think apart of me lives in a world where people are just happier. I've also learned over time that you have to be a strong minded person or you'll crumble when people around you become negative.
This time I'm not interested in your thoughts and comments. Thanks for reading!
It is truly amazing to me how people think. We as a society have gotten so comfortable with everything that is considered "normal". Our way of thinking is so traditional, that anything else is viewed as stupid, weird, crazy, or any other demeaning word used, simply describes the person that thinks it as being simple minded.
I am annoyed (not upset) at some of the responses only because I thought that when you tell someone something good, they would just be happy for you. Never thought that the details of my happiness should or would determine how happy they would be for me. It has lead me to wonder, either some don't believe in what I do or some think that if I'm not getting paid for it then I'm not that good at what I do, but if I am getting paid for it they are surprised. Just think, if you won the lottery, wouldn't you think that people would be happy for you simply because you won? The amount shouldn't determine how happy others would be for you.
I want to explain some things. I understand that to many people writing is something that is never thought about. Writing is one of those things that you know people do, because everything single thing you read, somebody wrote it. From the ingredients on food boxes to magazine articles. I guess nobody stopped to think that the person behind writing everything you read may have gotten paid for it or maybe they didn't but, its what they wanted to do so with that being said, what's it to you?
I am fascinated by the way people process information. I want to give some of you something to think about. My goal is to be self-employed. I have had to clean an apartment for free in order to get a contract with a company. Once I got the contract, I understood that the way I continued to do business, as far as my work ethic and attitude, would determine how long my contract lasted and the potential I would have with others in the business, because word of mouth is a form of marketing. The type of marketing you do depends on your business, however, every business requires clientele. People will talk about you if your work or product is good or bad. The good word of mouth is the type of free marketing that has big returns. Sometimes giving something free along with a pleasing personality, and positive thinking goes a very long way. People will do business with those they believe in and can trust. It's also obvious when people do things just for the money. There is nothing wrong with getting paid for what you do, but when you actually like and take pride in what you do it makes a huge difference and it shows.
There is a saying,"Do what you love and never work another day in your life". Maybe I am one of those rare people who believe that if your heart is in what you do, getting paid for it is a bonus. Its like the ultimate compliment. Imagine, for a minute, about how great your life would be if you did what you loved and were compensated well for it, especially if it's something you would do for free.
My sixth grade math teacher used to tell us everyday at the end of class "remember, if you can't say anything good, don't say nothing. For those of you who are thinking that I should just keep it to myself, maybe you are right, or maybe it wouldn't kill you to just be happy for someone else for once. You see, I know it's impossible to please a crowd. I think apart of me lives in a world where people are just happier. I've also learned over time that you have to be a strong minded person or you'll crumble when people around you become negative.
This time I'm not interested in your thoughts and comments. Thanks for reading!
Saturday, May 2, 2009
Open Your Heart and Mind
There is no question as to whether or not things will get hard in our lives at some point. Sometimes we will have to make decisions that aren't exactly right but its the best we know to do at that time. Things will happen or have happened in our lives that we never thought possible, good and bad. When the bad things happen to you or someone else don't ever think negatively or be quick to judge because it could have been you. Be thankful it wasn't you then live by the "golden rule" treat them the way you would want to be treated.
Its easier said than done but try not to let these tough times get the best of you. People can be cruel and closed minded about things because they haven't experienced certain things or they have become bitter. If you are either one of those people, I pray that somehow you will change this way about yourself, if not I pray that things change dramatically for you and you are able to help someone in return.
Funny how people are quick to judge you based on things you've done or decisions you've made without knowing the situation behind it. I am one of those that don't have to know. Just knowing a drastic decision was made tells me that there was a serious situation behind it. Its common sense to me but then common sense aint so common.
Hopefully, we will all reach a point where we are confident in ourselves to where we don't care about what someone else thinks of us when it comes to doing what we have to do. People will always have something to say no matter what so for that I say don't worry about it.
When you've done your best......... don't worry about it!
When they say things that aren't true...........don't worry about it!
When you KNOW what you KNOW, don't try to prove yourself to anybody............don't worry about it!
You can either have control over your life or let life control you.
Say the serenity prayer and don't worry about it!
If you pray don't worry but if you're going to worry don't pray. Simple as that
Its easier said than done but try not to let these tough times get the best of you. People can be cruel and closed minded about things because they haven't experienced certain things or they have become bitter. If you are either one of those people, I pray that somehow you will change this way about yourself, if not I pray that things change dramatically for you and you are able to help someone in return.
Funny how people are quick to judge you based on things you've done or decisions you've made without knowing the situation behind it. I am one of those that don't have to know. Just knowing a drastic decision was made tells me that there was a serious situation behind it. Its common sense to me but then common sense aint so common.
Hopefully, we will all reach a point where we are confident in ourselves to where we don't care about what someone else thinks of us when it comes to doing what we have to do. People will always have something to say no matter what so for that I say don't worry about it.
When you've done your best......... don't worry about it!
When they say things that aren't true...........don't worry about it!
When you KNOW what you KNOW, don't try to prove yourself to anybody............don't worry about it!
You can either have control over your life or let life control you.
Say the serenity prayer and don't worry about it!
If you pray don't worry but if you're going to worry don't pray. Simple as that
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Not What You Expected
Just because it didn't come as expected doesn't mean its not what you wanted
People, be mindful that the opportunity of a lifetime may present itself in an unusual and strange way. Always keep an open mind and remember the saying: There is more than one way to skin a cat. Don't let something great pass you by being simple minded and ignorant.
There may be something or some things that you want to happen in your life but you are too stuck in your way of thinking to see it coming to you. When praying for the things that you want, be sure to ask God to open your mind up to accept it in an unusual way simply because you just never know how an opportunity will present itself.
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People, be mindful that the opportunity of a lifetime may present itself in an unusual and strange way. Always keep an open mind and remember the saying: There is more than one way to skin a cat. Don't let something great pass you by being simple minded and ignorant.
There may be something or some things that you want to happen in your life but you are too stuck in your way of thinking to see it coming to you. When praying for the things that you want, be sure to ask God to open your mind up to accept it in an unusual way simply because you just never know how an opportunity will present itself.
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Sunday, April 19, 2009
Should Women Pursue Men?
How should this be done
A series of events lead me to wonder if men like to be pursued by women. Before I go any further remember we are in the year 2009. Almost nothing is traditional anymore. I had conversations with friends about this and actually asked a few guys their opinion. I was very surprised at the response.
This is one of those topics that can be debatable for women because so many of us have gotten relaxed at the thought and the habit of men approaching us. We have figured out how we like to be approach, what this guy should say and/or do to get our attention. We even know how we want guys to look at us. We've grown accustom to thinking all we have to do is look pretty and they will come.
I am proud to say that I will be thirty soon and very proud of it because of all the things that I have learned in my life. I would not rather be younger nor do I wish to be anything like anyone else. I think I have fallen in love with myself. This love for myself has also brought on direction in different areas of my life. I now know what it is that I want, especially in a relationship. So I have to be willing to sometimes go after a man that may be what I am looking for.
So back to the question. Should women pursue men? I think the answer is yes. I would also say that there is an art to it. Men are rarely approached by women and surely don't get the flowers or the chocolates that we look forward to. As mentioned before, I did question a few men and their first two answers were the same. They all like the idea of women showing their interest. It tells them that woman is confident and confidence is sexy to a man. The question was how did they want to be approached or what could a woman do to turn them on initially. The response was " I don't know". This was very surprising because they realized this was something they had never given thought to. These guys were clueless. They had never been asked this question before.
From all the information I gathered I realized there is an art to this. We do know that all men aren't the same so the approach has to be different. There are a couple rules that are the same no matter what. The first one is you don't just walk up to a guy and say let me get your number or whats up for the night. A guy does not want to be man handled! Although it feels good to flip the script sometimes so they can see how it feels. Initial contact is not the time for that. Save it for when he has earned it. The second is be sexy without being sexual. There is a difference.
We know the ratio of women to men (in Atlanta) is like 20:1 or something like that, so just think even with those numbers, how many don't work out and the many ways you can set yourself apart from other women. Bottom line is to not be afraid to make the first move or the second but leave the third up to him and if you aren't quite there yet with the approach then just give him the eye (without being stalkerish) til he notices and be approachable. Compliment him and show genuine interest. Somehow it will all come together if its suppose to.
Comments, suggestions, questions? Shoot me an email freshholmes@yahoo.com
A series of events lead me to wonder if men like to be pursued by women. Before I go any further remember we are in the year 2009. Almost nothing is traditional anymore. I had conversations with friends about this and actually asked a few guys their opinion. I was very surprised at the response.
This is one of those topics that can be debatable for women because so many of us have gotten relaxed at the thought and the habit of men approaching us. We have figured out how we like to be approach, what this guy should say and/or do to get our attention. We even know how we want guys to look at us. We've grown accustom to thinking all we have to do is look pretty and they will come.
I am proud to say that I will be thirty soon and very proud of it because of all the things that I have learned in my life. I would not rather be younger nor do I wish to be anything like anyone else. I think I have fallen in love with myself. This love for myself has also brought on direction in different areas of my life. I now know what it is that I want, especially in a relationship. So I have to be willing to sometimes go after a man that may be what I am looking for.
So back to the question. Should women pursue men? I think the answer is yes. I would also say that there is an art to it. Men are rarely approached by women and surely don't get the flowers or the chocolates that we look forward to. As mentioned before, I did question a few men and their first two answers were the same. They all like the idea of women showing their interest. It tells them that woman is confident and confidence is sexy to a man. The question was how did they want to be approached or what could a woman do to turn them on initially. The response was " I don't know". This was very surprising because they realized this was something they had never given thought to. These guys were clueless. They had never been asked this question before.
From all the information I gathered I realized there is an art to this. We do know that all men aren't the same so the approach has to be different. There are a couple rules that are the same no matter what. The first one is you don't just walk up to a guy and say let me get your number or whats up for the night. A guy does not want to be man handled! Although it feels good to flip the script sometimes so they can see how it feels. Initial contact is not the time for that. Save it for when he has earned it. The second is be sexy without being sexual. There is a difference.
We know the ratio of women to men (in Atlanta) is like 20:1 or something like that, so just think even with those numbers, how many don't work out and the many ways you can set yourself apart from other women. Bottom line is to not be afraid to make the first move or the second but leave the third up to him and if you aren't quite there yet with the approach then just give him the eye (without being stalkerish) til he notices and be approachable. Compliment him and show genuine interest. Somehow it will all come together if its suppose to.
Comments, suggestions, questions? Shoot me an email freshholmes@yahoo.com
Saturday, March 28, 2009
Think Of Your Time As Money
You gotta pay me for mine
I have noticed that when you make yourself available to people on the regular basis your demand decreases. People start to take you for granted because they think you have nothing to do. Let me give you an example. Lets say you have the rare opportunity to spend and hour with a celebrity of your choice. Wouldn't you prepare for that day? Why? One major reason is because you know that this person's time is very valuable and you want to get the most of your time with this person. On the flip side you have someone you always have access to and you can call them for anything and everything and sometimes nothing. See the difference?
In real estate contracts they use a term: Time is of the essence. That term can be used in things that we do everyday. Just like the saying: with age comes wisdom. I've learn the value of MY time and if its to be wasted I would rather waste MY time than allow someone else to do it. Do you value your time? There are only twenty-four hours in a day and that's really not a lot of time. When you work, have kids to tend to and a destructive rabbit, who has time to waste? By the way does anyone want a rabbit? Please email me!
Over time I have become more relaxed and I pick my battles. I decide what to get upset over. I would rather spend time thinking of my next career move or what the kids will eat for dinner than dwell over an unreturned phone call or someone or something that I absolutely have no control over. Hint: Refer to the serenity prayer, then react to whatever situation you are faced with. Life is really too short to major in anything minor. Pray about everything, control what you can, do what you can to change what you can and let go and let God do the rest.
If there was a way to send a text invoice after each phone call, think of how much money we would make. People, we have to start thinking of our time as money. If we did, we would look at things differently and hopefully consider it as a way to filter out the unnecessary things in our lives. Yeah the Chris Brown and Rhianna situation is a great conversation piece but we must invest our time and energy in more important things. Gas prices are still too high, Unemployment is at an all time high and my rabbit is destroying my place. Someone please help me! This is a great time to change the way you think and become a better you.
Make a to do list every night and follow through with it the next day. Even if its reading a chapter in a book you've allowed to collect dust. Do something to better yourself. Make the most of your time!!
I would love to hear from you freshholmes@yahoo.com
I have noticed that when you make yourself available to people on the regular basis your demand decreases. People start to take you for granted because they think you have nothing to do. Let me give you an example. Lets say you have the rare opportunity to spend and hour with a celebrity of your choice. Wouldn't you prepare for that day? Why? One major reason is because you know that this person's time is very valuable and you want to get the most of your time with this person. On the flip side you have someone you always have access to and you can call them for anything and everything and sometimes nothing. See the difference?
In real estate contracts they use a term: Time is of the essence. That term can be used in things that we do everyday. Just like the saying: with age comes wisdom. I've learn the value of MY time and if its to be wasted I would rather waste MY time than allow someone else to do it. Do you value your time? There are only twenty-four hours in a day and that's really not a lot of time. When you work, have kids to tend to and a destructive rabbit, who has time to waste? By the way does anyone want a rabbit? Please email me!
Over time I have become more relaxed and I pick my battles. I decide what to get upset over. I would rather spend time thinking of my next career move or what the kids will eat for dinner than dwell over an unreturned phone call or someone or something that I absolutely have no control over. Hint: Refer to the serenity prayer, then react to whatever situation you are faced with. Life is really too short to major in anything minor. Pray about everything, control what you can, do what you can to change what you can and let go and let God do the rest.
If there was a way to send a text invoice after each phone call, think of how much money we would make. People, we have to start thinking of our time as money. If we did, we would look at things differently and hopefully consider it as a way to filter out the unnecessary things in our lives. Yeah the Chris Brown and Rhianna situation is a great conversation piece but we must invest our time and energy in more important things. Gas prices are still too high, Unemployment is at an all time high and my rabbit is destroying my place. Someone please help me! This is a great time to change the way you think and become a better you.
Make a to do list every night and follow through with it the next day. Even if its reading a chapter in a book you've allowed to collect dust. Do something to better yourself. Make the most of your time!!
I would love to hear from you freshholmes@yahoo.com
Friday, March 13, 2009
Get Your Mind Right
Did you know that the most successful people have basic habits? They have a vision, they set goals, and go for it. In the process they don't let anyone tell them what they can and can't do. Its amazing how we surround ourselves with negative things and people and think nothing of it.
When was the last time you did something you were proud of? It could have been something as simple as losing one pound of ten, making the last payment on a long term bill, or finally getting out of your comfort zone doing something you should have done a long time ago. We are so good at saying I will start that tomorrow or I will start fresh on Monday morning or we swear to get it right for the new year.
Taking the first step toward a dream can make you feel like you are on cloud nine. Shortly after that imagine what you will feel like once you have accomplished that goal. Most of us have no clue how important self discipline is. You have to start by gaining control over your thoughts. You must replace one negative thought with three or four positive thoughts. In other words you have to reprogram your way of thinking.
People that fail to achieve their desired level of success do so because they are easily influenced by others. Have you ever heard the saying: Opinions are like butt holes, everybody has one? Think about how true that is. No matter what you say or do, someone is going to think something about it. The last time you made a decision, did you have to consult with family and/or friends? Why? Successful people consult with experienced like minds. We consult with inexperienced broke minds. Why?
We were not born with the spirit of fear. It was taught to us. I challenge you to do something that will make you proud of yourself and hopefully encourage those around you to do the same. This is still a new year. Its not too late to make this year ten times better than last year. Keep your dreams alive by doing something everyday that brings you closer to obtaining them.
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When was the last time you did something you were proud of? It could have been something as simple as losing one pound of ten, making the last payment on a long term bill, or finally getting out of your comfort zone doing something you should have done a long time ago. We are so good at saying I will start that tomorrow or I will start fresh on Monday morning or we swear to get it right for the new year.
Taking the first step toward a dream can make you feel like you are on cloud nine. Shortly after that imagine what you will feel like once you have accomplished that goal. Most of us have no clue how important self discipline is. You have to start by gaining control over your thoughts. You must replace one negative thought with three or four positive thoughts. In other words you have to reprogram your way of thinking.
People that fail to achieve their desired level of success do so because they are easily influenced by others. Have you ever heard the saying: Opinions are like butt holes, everybody has one? Think about how true that is. No matter what you say or do, someone is going to think something about it. The last time you made a decision, did you have to consult with family and/or friends? Why? Successful people consult with experienced like minds. We consult with inexperienced broke minds. Why?
We were not born with the spirit of fear. It was taught to us. I challenge you to do something that will make you proud of yourself and hopefully encourage those around you to do the same. This is still a new year. Its not too late to make this year ten times better than last year. Keep your dreams alive by doing something everyday that brings you closer to obtaining them.
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Friday, March 6, 2009
Sunday, March 1, 2009
Check Me Out!
I DID THAT!!
There is an up and coming web magazine called The League Magazine. I was given the opportunity to write the introduction to Keri Hilson's interview and she (Miss Ivirlei) thought enough of it to publish it in the latest issue of the magazine. I was very excited to see my name in print and as one of the contributing editors. It is motivation to me and forces me to think more positive thoughts about myself. Its funny how others see our potential before we do. This is one of those times for me.
Thank You Ivirlei for the opportunity! It means a lot to me!
Please view the web magazine at www.leaguemagazine.com
There is an up and coming web magazine called The League Magazine. I was given the opportunity to write the introduction to Keri Hilson's interview and she (Miss Ivirlei) thought enough of it to publish it in the latest issue of the magazine. I was very excited to see my name in print and as one of the contributing editors. It is motivation to me and forces me to think more positive thoughts about myself. Its funny how others see our potential before we do. This is one of those times for me.
Thank You Ivirlei for the opportunity! It means a lot to me!
Please view the web magazine at www.leaguemagazine.com
The Power of Prayer
Do you know how much power is in praying?
I have come to realize that I need to pray constantly day in and out and it helps. I pray to get through each day, sometimes each hour of work. My need for God's mercy is growing and changing. I don't consider myself to be a religious person but I obviously believe in a higher being. I honestly don't know the story behind the the bible, the events that took place, who said and did what. All I know is that there has to be someone watching over us everyday.
Think about all the things that could have been and probably should have but wasn't. Who do you think is behind that. Its not a matter of "good luck" or you just so happen to make the right decision. It was God's favor that intervened. At some point you have to recognize this and give thanks for it all.
With prayer you also have to realize that you get what you put out. You cant ask for good things to happen to you and you are a negative person or you don't ever stop to help others whenever possible. Positive things come from prayer when your heart is also in the right place. The law of attraction is very real.
Prayer is powerful and it works! We are experiencing hard economic times as a nation.
Even though people are struggling financially and in other ways, somehow we manage to vote in our first black president. Which was no mistake! That is the power of prayer and positive thinking, and tangible evidence of faith that many had to make it happen.
From this day forward make it a priority to put God first and pray. Thank him for everyday you wake up, thank him for food shelter, your health and if one person loves you thank him for that as well. Tell him you appreciate him and that you love him. He will in turn smile at you with his blessings. Stay positive and know that all things are possible through him.
I would love to hear from you. Send emails to freshholmes@yahoo.com
I have come to realize that I need to pray constantly day in and out and it helps. I pray to get through each day, sometimes each hour of work. My need for God's mercy is growing and changing. I don't consider myself to be a religious person but I obviously believe in a higher being. I honestly don't know the story behind the the bible, the events that took place, who said and did what. All I know is that there has to be someone watching over us everyday.
Think about all the things that could have been and probably should have but wasn't. Who do you think is behind that. Its not a matter of "good luck" or you just so happen to make the right decision. It was God's favor that intervened. At some point you have to recognize this and give thanks for it all.
With prayer you also have to realize that you get what you put out. You cant ask for good things to happen to you and you are a negative person or you don't ever stop to help others whenever possible. Positive things come from prayer when your heart is also in the right place. The law of attraction is very real.
Prayer is powerful and it works! We are experiencing hard economic times as a nation.
Even though people are struggling financially and in other ways, somehow we manage to vote in our first black president. Which was no mistake! That is the power of prayer and positive thinking, and tangible evidence of faith that many had to make it happen.
From this day forward make it a priority to put God first and pray. Thank him for everyday you wake up, thank him for food shelter, your health and if one person loves you thank him for that as well. Tell him you appreciate him and that you love him. He will in turn smile at you with his blessings. Stay positive and know that all things are possible through him.
I would love to hear from you. Send emails to freshholmes@yahoo.com
Sunday, October 5, 2008
Opportunity Is Knocking
Will you ever answer?
How often do you pray for change? How many times have you put yourself in the position for change to come? Have you ever heard of laws of attraction? Its how you attract things to you with your thoughts. What you think becomes reality.
It is important for you to know that anything is possible and how far we all go in life is truly up to us. Think about the idea of the air plane before it was actually built. Before anything it was a thought. Someone put their thoughts into action and now we have airplanes. We can't think of what life would be like without them. People now depend on planes for business and personal use. Now do you believe the sky is the limit?
Everyday struggles can easily distract us from our goals in life and along the way we forget what we wanted to be when we grew up. Who says I want to flip hamburgers for a living, or when I grow up I want to pick up trash or clean toilets. If anything we want to own a business and employ people to do these things. There is nothing wrong with any of this, Lord knows I have cleaned my share of toilets but with a bigger goal in mind. For those of us that want to be entrepreneurs it is in our best interest to make the laws of attraction work for us however possible. We tend to think that we have to wait until the time is right or we'll work on it when we get the money, or that we have to read every book possible in order to get started. All you need is a vision. Experience will be the best teacher.
Its October, what have you done so far this year to accomplish anything? It helps to write daily and weekly goals. This will keep you focused on the ultimate goal. Your support should be those that have your best interest at heart and the people who share the same interest. Read books along the way to keep you motivated, post pictures of what you want. Don't be afraid to dream!
Remember you have more to lose if you don't dream at all!
Share your thoughts and dreams. Send me an email to freshholmes@yahoo.com
How often do you pray for change? How many times have you put yourself in the position for change to come? Have you ever heard of laws of attraction? Its how you attract things to you with your thoughts. What you think becomes reality.
It is important for you to know that anything is possible and how far we all go in life is truly up to us. Think about the idea of the air plane before it was actually built. Before anything it was a thought. Someone put their thoughts into action and now we have airplanes. We can't think of what life would be like without them. People now depend on planes for business and personal use. Now do you believe the sky is the limit?
Everyday struggles can easily distract us from our goals in life and along the way we forget what we wanted to be when we grew up. Who says I want to flip hamburgers for a living, or when I grow up I want to pick up trash or clean toilets. If anything we want to own a business and employ people to do these things. There is nothing wrong with any of this, Lord knows I have cleaned my share of toilets but with a bigger goal in mind. For those of us that want to be entrepreneurs it is in our best interest to make the laws of attraction work for us however possible. We tend to think that we have to wait until the time is right or we'll work on it when we get the money, or that we have to read every book possible in order to get started. All you need is a vision. Experience will be the best teacher.
Its October, what have you done so far this year to accomplish anything? It helps to write daily and weekly goals. This will keep you focused on the ultimate goal. Your support should be those that have your best interest at heart and the people who share the same interest. Read books along the way to keep you motivated, post pictures of what you want. Don't be afraid to dream!
Remember you have more to lose if you don't dream at all!
Share your thoughts and dreams. Send me an email to freshholmes@yahoo.com
Thursday, September 25, 2008
WANTED: REAL MEN
These are the five best ways to tell
Ladies listen up! We all know that good men are hard to find. Some of you may be married, some single. Either way you know the difference between a good man and whatever else is out there. You name it, that's what I'll call it! My research department has informed me that the pickins is slim! This means we have to put a search team together, strap on the leather boots, and get rid of the baggage to find what we want. We also have to except minor short comings, reorganize our priorities (a need and necessity list). I have listed the things we are looking for. If all doesn't apply, he isn't the one.
1) Has learned from past mistakes.
This is important because it shows that even though he's made bad decisions in the past, he hasn't repeated them. A rough past should be the foundation for a mentally stable future. Besides experience is the best teacher.
2) The relationship he has with his kids.
A man that doesn't take care of his kids, surely will not care for you. NO EXCEPTIONS! Your kids are the next best thing to you, so if he doesn't care about his kids DO NOT expect him to care anything for you either.
3) Type of people he associates with.
I'm afraid there is some truth to the saying, birds of a feather flock together. Look at his closest friends. They have some things in common. You need to know what it is. You also want to hear what others have to say about him. Keep in mind you can't change anybody. This is why you keep it moving. NEXT
4)What is his outlook on life?
What are his plans in life? Does he have goals? What motivates him? Is he registered to vote? What does he think of the presidential election? Both of you actually need to have answers to these questions. A person without a destination is lost.
5) Keeps a job and pays bills.
A real man knows that things have to be done and actually does them. A man will sacrifice for family and provide the best way possible. He will do what's best for family and not himself. Paying bills shows that he is responsible. Believe me when I tell you, many males will not pay bills.
Ladies, remember in order to get what you want and need you have to be willing to meet him half way. A relationship is give and take and this goes both ways. Don't mess things up for yourself being selfish and stupid. On the other hand if you have someone in your life that's draining you, then do what you have to do. The sooner the better!
Send comments to freshholmes@yahoo.com
Ladies listen up! We all know that good men are hard to find. Some of you may be married, some single. Either way you know the difference between a good man and whatever else is out there. You name it, that's what I'll call it! My research department has informed me that the pickins is slim! This means we have to put a search team together, strap on the leather boots, and get rid of the baggage to find what we want. We also have to except minor short comings, reorganize our priorities (a need and necessity list). I have listed the things we are looking for. If all doesn't apply, he isn't the one.
1) Has learned from past mistakes.
This is important because it shows that even though he's made bad decisions in the past, he hasn't repeated them. A rough past should be the foundation for a mentally stable future. Besides experience is the best teacher.
2) The relationship he has with his kids.
A man that doesn't take care of his kids, surely will not care for you. NO EXCEPTIONS! Your kids are the next best thing to you, so if he doesn't care about his kids DO NOT expect him to care anything for you either.
3) Type of people he associates with.
I'm afraid there is some truth to the saying, birds of a feather flock together. Look at his closest friends. They have some things in common. You need to know what it is. You also want to hear what others have to say about him. Keep in mind you can't change anybody. This is why you keep it moving. NEXT
4)What is his outlook on life?
What are his plans in life? Does he have goals? What motivates him? Is he registered to vote? What does he think of the presidential election? Both of you actually need to have answers to these questions. A person without a destination is lost.
5) Keeps a job and pays bills.
A real man knows that things have to be done and actually does them. A man will sacrifice for family and provide the best way possible. He will do what's best for family and not himself. Paying bills shows that he is responsible. Believe me when I tell you, many males will not pay bills.
Ladies, remember in order to get what you want and need you have to be willing to meet him half way. A relationship is give and take and this goes both ways. Don't mess things up for yourself being selfish and stupid. On the other hand if you have someone in your life that's draining you, then do what you have to do. The sooner the better!
Send comments to freshholmes@yahoo.com
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Yes We Can!
Let's Practice What Obama Preaches
Change is in the air! You have to feel it some kind of way. This is a historical time in our lives and as of now we have no idea of what's next. I have been seeing voter registrations everywhere. They have been stressing the issue of how important this is.
We all know people that complain about things in their lives. They even complain about the things they have total control of. Why do this if you aren't registered to vote? You might as well be a nobody because if you don't vote, you really don't exist.
A new year can start on any given day. You just have to pick the day. There's no better day or time than NOW!! Gas prices are outrageous, we can't afford to feed our family. When Ramen Noodles go up, you know times are hard!! Don't stand around giving directions unless you are an experienced director.
Television, music, material things are all distractions from the real issues. For some reason we choose to ignore the things that are taking place before our eyes. Changes are being put into place that will control our lives and NOBODY is above it. We are being controlled with technology and food.
Remember thoughts are things that determine your destination. So if you think negative you will get negative results. Its no secret! Laws of attraction exist even if you don't believe it. To prove my point, wake up tomorrow morning and tell yourself all day that you are going to have a bad day. See what happens.
We as a people have so much power and use it in the worse way. If everybody takes a small step, it will equal to one big step. Research what you hear, turn off the t.v., READ A BOOK! Say something nice to someone, smile, wash your hands more. DO SOMETHING! Anything positive to make a change in this world. VOTE FOR OBAMA!
Send your thoughts and comments to freshholmes@yahoo.com
Change is in the air! You have to feel it some kind of way. This is a historical time in our lives and as of now we have no idea of what's next. I have been seeing voter registrations everywhere. They have been stressing the issue of how important this is.
We all know people that complain about things in their lives. They even complain about the things they have total control of. Why do this if you aren't registered to vote? You might as well be a nobody because if you don't vote, you really don't exist.
A new year can start on any given day. You just have to pick the day. There's no better day or time than NOW!! Gas prices are outrageous, we can't afford to feed our family. When Ramen Noodles go up, you know times are hard!! Don't stand around giving directions unless you are an experienced director.
Television, music, material things are all distractions from the real issues. For some reason we choose to ignore the things that are taking place before our eyes. Changes are being put into place that will control our lives and NOBODY is above it. We are being controlled with technology and food.
Remember thoughts are things that determine your destination. So if you think negative you will get negative results. Its no secret! Laws of attraction exist even if you don't believe it. To prove my point, wake up tomorrow morning and tell yourself all day that you are going to have a bad day. See what happens.
We as a people have so much power and use it in the worse way. If everybody takes a small step, it will equal to one big step. Research what you hear, turn off the t.v., READ A BOOK! Say something nice to someone, smile, wash your hands more. DO SOMETHING! Anything positive to make a change in this world. VOTE FOR OBAMA!
Send your thoughts and comments to freshholmes@yahoo.com
Friday, September 19, 2008
Love and Money
Which would you choose?
The perfect life would be to fall deeply in love with someone and live happily ever after. When we hear that or say that its understood that living happily ever after includes being financially well off, in a relationship that's a dream come true in every way. The kids are smart as whip and become successful adults.
Now open your eyes and face reality. We have married couples struggling to make ends meet. Single parents have it even harder. These days living happily ever after is being able to just pay bills on time. Hoping your kids will stay out of trouble because they understand the sacrifice parents have to make working more and spending less time with them.
Truth is sometimes the pressure of having pay bills can force you to think about things you wouldn't if circumstances were better. There are certain things we must have in life which include a place to live, food, clothes, etc. I am keeping things simple by focusing on the basic necessities. We are facing high gas and food prices, everything is going up except our income which is still the same or lower because so many people are losing their jobs.
Since we have families to feed we start to look at things differently and weigh our options. With all things considered, we may make a screwed up decision based on the will to survive but because we also do it out of love for our families, do you think we chose money over love? Do you think that the saying is true that money is the root of all evil or the love of money is the root of all evil. Whatever the case may be we all want love and need money.
What do you think? Send me an email freshholmes@yahoo.com
The perfect life would be to fall deeply in love with someone and live happily ever after. When we hear that or say that its understood that living happily ever after includes being financially well off, in a relationship that's a dream come true in every way. The kids are smart as whip and become successful adults.
Now open your eyes and face reality. We have married couples struggling to make ends meet. Single parents have it even harder. These days living happily ever after is being able to just pay bills on time. Hoping your kids will stay out of trouble because they understand the sacrifice parents have to make working more and spending less time with them.
Truth is sometimes the pressure of having pay bills can force you to think about things you wouldn't if circumstances were better. There are certain things we must have in life which include a place to live, food, clothes, etc. I am keeping things simple by focusing on the basic necessities. We are facing high gas and food prices, everything is going up except our income which is still the same or lower because so many people are losing their jobs.
Since we have families to feed we start to look at things differently and weigh our options. With all things considered, we may make a screwed up decision based on the will to survive but because we also do it out of love for our families, do you think we chose money over love? Do you think that the saying is true that money is the root of all evil or the love of money is the root of all evil. Whatever the case may be we all want love and need money.
What do you think? Send me an email freshholmes@yahoo.com
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
What About Your Friends
Are they really your friends?
Let's start with the definition of friend. The dictionary says that a friend is someone that is attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. A person who gives assistance; a supporter. A person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile.
Now think about the people in your circle that you call your friends. Is your closest friend someone you can talk to without them judging you? Can you tell them about your deepest thoughts and feelings without it coming back on you later? Can your friend keep a secret?
Is your friend someone you can depend on? Does your friend give constructive criticism.
A friend is someone that has your best interest at heart. Someone that would never hurt you on purpose. A friend is someone that has no problem with admitting their faults and will apologize when wrong. A friend prefers to discuss the issues they have with you to you and not someone else. A friend will sacrifice some things for you such as a combo for more items on Wendy's ninety-nine cents menu so both of you are able to eat. A friend should only question your need for help so that they are able to help you in the best way possible. Also keep in mind that a jealous person can never be a good friend to anybody because there will always be a conflict of interest.
Notice that the definition of friend did not mention time in any way. So you can stop saying someone is your friend or best friend because of the amount of time you've known each other . That doesn't count! (Literally)
Have you realized who your real friends are? How? Send me an email
freshholmes@yahoo.com
Let's start with the definition of friend. The dictionary says that a friend is someone that is attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard. A person who gives assistance; a supporter. A person who is on good terms with another; a person who is not hostile.
Now think about the people in your circle that you call your friends. Is your closest friend someone you can talk to without them judging you? Can you tell them about your deepest thoughts and feelings without it coming back on you later? Can your friend keep a secret?
Is your friend someone you can depend on? Does your friend give constructive criticism.
A friend is someone that has your best interest at heart. Someone that would never hurt you on purpose. A friend is someone that has no problem with admitting their faults and will apologize when wrong. A friend prefers to discuss the issues they have with you to you and not someone else. A friend will sacrifice some things for you such as a combo for more items on Wendy's ninety-nine cents menu so both of you are able to eat. A friend should only question your need for help so that they are able to help you in the best way possible. Also keep in mind that a jealous person can never be a good friend to anybody because there will always be a conflict of interest.
Notice that the definition of friend did not mention time in any way. So you can stop saying someone is your friend or best friend because of the amount of time you've known each other . That doesn't count! (Literally)
Have you realized who your real friends are? How? Send me an email
freshholmes@yahoo.com
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
Let The Relationship Begin!
Who Makes it Official?
Remember in elementary school or the first year of middle school when a boy liked a girl he slipped her a note that said: Will you be my girlfriend? circle yes or no. Those were the good old days when simple things were indeed simple. I was wondering how this works in 2008.
Women in general are always more willing and ready to commit than men. Most of us seem to have a sense of urgency when it comes to relationships. There is nothing wrong with wanting to know if the guy you're interested in- is on the same page as you. In the beginning its important to discuss where each of you are in life to see if a serious long term relationship is even an option. You shouldn't start anything assuming you both want the same things.
After a couple months of dating and discussing dating expectations, you find that you and this guy have great potential to develop a wonderful long lasting relationship. He consistently compliments you, smiles at you, doesn't mind being a perfect gentlemen (especially in public). He enjoys your company and has mentioned he would like you to meet his family. The conversation at this point says that you're a couple however he hasn't said the actual words or slipped you a note so........ it's up to you. Make it official by telling him how you feel and that you know that he feels the same- and because you both feel the same, he is now your boyfriend:).
How was your relationship made official? Share your story! Email me at freshholmes@yahoo.com
Remember in elementary school or the first year of middle school when a boy liked a girl he slipped her a note that said: Will you be my girlfriend? circle yes or no. Those were the good old days when simple things were indeed simple. I was wondering how this works in 2008.
Women in general are always more willing and ready to commit than men. Most of us seem to have a sense of urgency when it comes to relationships. There is nothing wrong with wanting to know if the guy you're interested in- is on the same page as you. In the beginning its important to discuss where each of you are in life to see if a serious long term relationship is even an option. You shouldn't start anything assuming you both want the same things.
After a couple months of dating and discussing dating expectations, you find that you and this guy have great potential to develop a wonderful long lasting relationship. He consistently compliments you, smiles at you, doesn't mind being a perfect gentlemen (especially in public). He enjoys your company and has mentioned he would like you to meet his family. The conversation at this point says that you're a couple however he hasn't said the actual words or slipped you a note so........ it's up to you. Make it official by telling him how you feel and that you know that he feels the same- and because you both feel the same, he is now your boyfriend:).
How was your relationship made official? Share your story! Email me at freshholmes@yahoo.com
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