You gotta pay me for mine
I have noticed that when you make yourself available to people on the regular basis your demand decreases. People start to take you for granted because they think you have nothing to do. Let me give you an example. Lets say you have the rare opportunity to spend and hour with a celebrity of your choice. Wouldn't you prepare for that day? Why? One major reason is because you know that this person's time is very valuable and you want to get the most of your time with this person. On the flip side you have someone you always have access to and you can call them for anything and everything and sometimes nothing. See the difference?
In real estate contracts they use a term: Time is of the essence. That term can be used in things that we do everyday. Just like the saying: with age comes wisdom. I've learn the value of MY time and if its to be wasted I would rather waste MY time than allow someone else to do it. Do you value your time? There are only twenty-four hours in a day and that's really not a lot of time. When you work, have kids to tend to and a destructive rabbit, who has time to waste? By the way does anyone want a rabbit? Please email me!
Over time I have become more relaxed and I pick my battles. I decide what to get upset over. I would rather spend time thinking of my next career move or what the kids will eat for dinner than dwell over an unreturned phone call or someone or something that I absolutely have no control over. Hint: Refer to the serenity prayer, then react to whatever situation you are faced with. Life is really too short to major in anything minor. Pray about everything, control what you can, do what you can to change what you can and let go and let God do the rest.
If there was a way to send a text invoice after each phone call, think of how much money we would make. People, we have to start thinking of our time as money. If we did, we would look at things differently and hopefully consider it as a way to filter out the unnecessary things in our lives. Yeah the Chris Brown and Rhianna situation is a great conversation piece but we must invest our time and energy in more important things. Gas prices are still too high, Unemployment is at an all time high and my rabbit is destroying my place. Someone please help me! This is a great time to change the way you think and become a better you.
Make a to do list every night and follow through with it the next day. Even if its reading a chapter in a book you've allowed to collect dust. Do something to better yourself. Make the most of your time!!
I would love to hear from you freshholmes@yahoo.com
Saturday, March 28, 2009
Friday, March 13, 2009
Get Your Mind Right
Did you know that the most successful people have basic habits? They have a vision, they set goals, and go for it. In the process they don't let anyone tell them what they can and can't do. Its amazing how we surround ourselves with negative things and people and think nothing of it.
When was the last time you did something you were proud of? It could have been something as simple as losing one pound of ten, making the last payment on a long term bill, or finally getting out of your comfort zone doing something you should have done a long time ago. We are so good at saying I will start that tomorrow or I will start fresh on Monday morning or we swear to get it right for the new year.
Taking the first step toward a dream can make you feel like you are on cloud nine. Shortly after that imagine what you will feel like once you have accomplished that goal. Most of us have no clue how important self discipline is. You have to start by gaining control over your thoughts. You must replace one negative thought with three or four positive thoughts. In other words you have to reprogram your way of thinking.
People that fail to achieve their desired level of success do so because they are easily influenced by others. Have you ever heard the saying: Opinions are like butt holes, everybody has one? Think about how true that is. No matter what you say or do, someone is going to think something about it. The last time you made a decision, did you have to consult with family and/or friends? Why? Successful people consult with experienced like minds. We consult with inexperienced broke minds. Why?
We were not born with the spirit of fear. It was taught to us. I challenge you to do something that will make you proud of yourself and hopefully encourage those around you to do the same. This is still a new year. Its not too late to make this year ten times better than last year. Keep your dreams alive by doing something everyday that brings you closer to obtaining them.
Share your thoughts at freshholmes@yahoo.com
When was the last time you did something you were proud of? It could have been something as simple as losing one pound of ten, making the last payment on a long term bill, or finally getting out of your comfort zone doing something you should have done a long time ago. We are so good at saying I will start that tomorrow or I will start fresh on Monday morning or we swear to get it right for the new year.
Taking the first step toward a dream can make you feel like you are on cloud nine. Shortly after that imagine what you will feel like once you have accomplished that goal. Most of us have no clue how important self discipline is. You have to start by gaining control over your thoughts. You must replace one negative thought with three or four positive thoughts. In other words you have to reprogram your way of thinking.
People that fail to achieve their desired level of success do so because they are easily influenced by others. Have you ever heard the saying: Opinions are like butt holes, everybody has one? Think about how true that is. No matter what you say or do, someone is going to think something about it. The last time you made a decision, did you have to consult with family and/or friends? Why? Successful people consult with experienced like minds. We consult with inexperienced broke minds. Why?
We were not born with the spirit of fear. It was taught to us. I challenge you to do something that will make you proud of yourself and hopefully encourage those around you to do the same. This is still a new year. Its not too late to make this year ten times better than last year. Keep your dreams alive by doing something everyday that brings you closer to obtaining them.
Share your thoughts at freshholmes@yahoo.com
Friday, March 6, 2009
Sunday, March 1, 2009
Check Me Out!
I DID THAT!!
There is an up and coming web magazine called The League Magazine. I was given the opportunity to write the introduction to Keri Hilson's interview and she (Miss Ivirlei) thought enough of it to publish it in the latest issue of the magazine. I was very excited to see my name in print and as one of the contributing editors. It is motivation to me and forces me to think more positive thoughts about myself. Its funny how others see our potential before we do. This is one of those times for me.
Thank You Ivirlei for the opportunity! It means a lot to me!
Please view the web magazine at www.leaguemagazine.com
There is an up and coming web magazine called The League Magazine. I was given the opportunity to write the introduction to Keri Hilson's interview and she (Miss Ivirlei) thought enough of it to publish it in the latest issue of the magazine. I was very excited to see my name in print and as one of the contributing editors. It is motivation to me and forces me to think more positive thoughts about myself. Its funny how others see our potential before we do. This is one of those times for me.
Thank You Ivirlei for the opportunity! It means a lot to me!
Please view the web magazine at www.leaguemagazine.com
The Power of Prayer
Do you know how much power is in praying?
I have come to realize that I need to pray constantly day in and out and it helps. I pray to get through each day, sometimes each hour of work. My need for God's mercy is growing and changing. I don't consider myself to be a religious person but I obviously believe in a higher being. I honestly don't know the story behind the the bible, the events that took place, who said and did what. All I know is that there has to be someone watching over us everyday.
Think about all the things that could have been and probably should have but wasn't. Who do you think is behind that. Its not a matter of "good luck" or you just so happen to make the right decision. It was God's favor that intervened. At some point you have to recognize this and give thanks for it all.
With prayer you also have to realize that you get what you put out. You cant ask for good things to happen to you and you are a negative person or you don't ever stop to help others whenever possible. Positive things come from prayer when your heart is also in the right place. The law of attraction is very real.
Prayer is powerful and it works! We are experiencing hard economic times as a nation.
Even though people are struggling financially and in other ways, somehow we manage to vote in our first black president. Which was no mistake! That is the power of prayer and positive thinking, and tangible evidence of faith that many had to make it happen.
From this day forward make it a priority to put God first and pray. Thank him for everyday you wake up, thank him for food shelter, your health and if one person loves you thank him for that as well. Tell him you appreciate him and that you love him. He will in turn smile at you with his blessings. Stay positive and know that all things are possible through him.
I would love to hear from you. Send emails to freshholmes@yahoo.com
I have come to realize that I need to pray constantly day in and out and it helps. I pray to get through each day, sometimes each hour of work. My need for God's mercy is growing and changing. I don't consider myself to be a religious person but I obviously believe in a higher being. I honestly don't know the story behind the the bible, the events that took place, who said and did what. All I know is that there has to be someone watching over us everyday.
Think about all the things that could have been and probably should have but wasn't. Who do you think is behind that. Its not a matter of "good luck" or you just so happen to make the right decision. It was God's favor that intervened. At some point you have to recognize this and give thanks for it all.
With prayer you also have to realize that you get what you put out. You cant ask for good things to happen to you and you are a negative person or you don't ever stop to help others whenever possible. Positive things come from prayer when your heart is also in the right place. The law of attraction is very real.
Prayer is powerful and it works! We are experiencing hard economic times as a nation.
Even though people are struggling financially and in other ways, somehow we manage to vote in our first black president. Which was no mistake! That is the power of prayer and positive thinking, and tangible evidence of faith that many had to make it happen.
From this day forward make it a priority to put God first and pray. Thank him for everyday you wake up, thank him for food shelter, your health and if one person loves you thank him for that as well. Tell him you appreciate him and that you love him. He will in turn smile at you with his blessings. Stay positive and know that all things are possible through him.
I would love to hear from you. Send emails to freshholmes@yahoo.com
Sunday, October 5, 2008
Opportunity Is Knocking
Will you ever answer?
How often do you pray for change? How many times have you put yourself in the position for change to come? Have you ever heard of laws of attraction? Its how you attract things to you with your thoughts. What you think becomes reality.
It is important for you to know that anything is possible and how far we all go in life is truly up to us. Think about the idea of the air plane before it was actually built. Before anything it was a thought. Someone put their thoughts into action and now we have airplanes. We can't think of what life would be like without them. People now depend on planes for business and personal use. Now do you believe the sky is the limit?
Everyday struggles can easily distract us from our goals in life and along the way we forget what we wanted to be when we grew up. Who says I want to flip hamburgers for a living, or when I grow up I want to pick up trash or clean toilets. If anything we want to own a business and employ people to do these things. There is nothing wrong with any of this, Lord knows I have cleaned my share of toilets but with a bigger goal in mind. For those of us that want to be entrepreneurs it is in our best interest to make the laws of attraction work for us however possible. We tend to think that we have to wait until the time is right or we'll work on it when we get the money, or that we have to read every book possible in order to get started. All you need is a vision. Experience will be the best teacher.
Its October, what have you done so far this year to accomplish anything? It helps to write daily and weekly goals. This will keep you focused on the ultimate goal. Your support should be those that have your best interest at heart and the people who share the same interest. Read books along the way to keep you motivated, post pictures of what you want. Don't be afraid to dream!
Remember you have more to lose if you don't dream at all!
Share your thoughts and dreams. Send me an email to freshholmes@yahoo.com
How often do you pray for change? How many times have you put yourself in the position for change to come? Have you ever heard of laws of attraction? Its how you attract things to you with your thoughts. What you think becomes reality.
It is important for you to know that anything is possible and how far we all go in life is truly up to us. Think about the idea of the air plane before it was actually built. Before anything it was a thought. Someone put their thoughts into action and now we have airplanes. We can't think of what life would be like without them. People now depend on planes for business and personal use. Now do you believe the sky is the limit?
Everyday struggles can easily distract us from our goals in life and along the way we forget what we wanted to be when we grew up. Who says I want to flip hamburgers for a living, or when I grow up I want to pick up trash or clean toilets. If anything we want to own a business and employ people to do these things. There is nothing wrong with any of this, Lord knows I have cleaned my share of toilets but with a bigger goal in mind. For those of us that want to be entrepreneurs it is in our best interest to make the laws of attraction work for us however possible. We tend to think that we have to wait until the time is right or we'll work on it when we get the money, or that we have to read every book possible in order to get started. All you need is a vision. Experience will be the best teacher.
Its October, what have you done so far this year to accomplish anything? It helps to write daily and weekly goals. This will keep you focused on the ultimate goal. Your support should be those that have your best interest at heart and the people who share the same interest. Read books along the way to keep you motivated, post pictures of what you want. Don't be afraid to dream!
Remember you have more to lose if you don't dream at all!
Share your thoughts and dreams. Send me an email to freshholmes@yahoo.com
Thursday, September 25, 2008
WANTED: REAL MEN
These are the five best ways to tell
Ladies listen up! We all know that good men are hard to find. Some of you may be married, some single. Either way you know the difference between a good man and whatever else is out there. You name it, that's what I'll call it! My research department has informed me that the pickins is slim! This means we have to put a search team together, strap on the leather boots, and get rid of the baggage to find what we want. We also have to except minor short comings, reorganize our priorities (a need and necessity list). I have listed the things we are looking for. If all doesn't apply, he isn't the one.
1) Has learned from past mistakes.
This is important because it shows that even though he's made bad decisions in the past, he hasn't repeated them. A rough past should be the foundation for a mentally stable future. Besides experience is the best teacher.
2) The relationship he has with his kids.
A man that doesn't take care of his kids, surely will not care for you. NO EXCEPTIONS! Your kids are the next best thing to you, so if he doesn't care about his kids DO NOT expect him to care anything for you either.
3) Type of people he associates with.
I'm afraid there is some truth to the saying, birds of a feather flock together. Look at his closest friends. They have some things in common. You need to know what it is. You also want to hear what others have to say about him. Keep in mind you can't change anybody. This is why you keep it moving. NEXT
4)What is his outlook on life?
What are his plans in life? Does he have goals? What motivates him? Is he registered to vote? What does he think of the presidential election? Both of you actually need to have answers to these questions. A person without a destination is lost.
5) Keeps a job and pays bills.
A real man knows that things have to be done and actually does them. A man will sacrifice for family and provide the best way possible. He will do what's best for family and not himself. Paying bills shows that he is responsible. Believe me when I tell you, many males will not pay bills.
Ladies, remember in order to get what you want and need you have to be willing to meet him half way. A relationship is give and take and this goes both ways. Don't mess things up for yourself being selfish and stupid. On the other hand if you have someone in your life that's draining you, then do what you have to do. The sooner the better!
Send comments to freshholmes@yahoo.com
Ladies listen up! We all know that good men are hard to find. Some of you may be married, some single. Either way you know the difference between a good man and whatever else is out there. You name it, that's what I'll call it! My research department has informed me that the pickins is slim! This means we have to put a search team together, strap on the leather boots, and get rid of the baggage to find what we want. We also have to except minor short comings, reorganize our priorities (a need and necessity list). I have listed the things we are looking for. If all doesn't apply, he isn't the one.
1) Has learned from past mistakes.
This is important because it shows that even though he's made bad decisions in the past, he hasn't repeated them. A rough past should be the foundation for a mentally stable future. Besides experience is the best teacher.
2) The relationship he has with his kids.
A man that doesn't take care of his kids, surely will not care for you. NO EXCEPTIONS! Your kids are the next best thing to you, so if he doesn't care about his kids DO NOT expect him to care anything for you either.
3) Type of people he associates with.
I'm afraid there is some truth to the saying, birds of a feather flock together. Look at his closest friends. They have some things in common. You need to know what it is. You also want to hear what others have to say about him. Keep in mind you can't change anybody. This is why you keep it moving. NEXT
4)What is his outlook on life?
What are his plans in life? Does he have goals? What motivates him? Is he registered to vote? What does he think of the presidential election? Both of you actually need to have answers to these questions. A person without a destination is lost.
5) Keeps a job and pays bills.
A real man knows that things have to be done and actually does them. A man will sacrifice for family and provide the best way possible. He will do what's best for family and not himself. Paying bills shows that he is responsible. Believe me when I tell you, many males will not pay bills.
Ladies, remember in order to get what you want and need you have to be willing to meet him half way. A relationship is give and take and this goes both ways. Don't mess things up for yourself being selfish and stupid. On the other hand if you have someone in your life that's draining you, then do what you have to do. The sooner the better!
Send comments to freshholmes@yahoo.com
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